By Claudia Hehr, Animal Communications Expert, Dog Expert, Author, Speaker, Coach
Have you ever wondered why animals so often do exactly the opposite of what we ask them to do?
Most people point their fingers to the animals and say: “He did it out of spite”, “She was angry with me”, “She just doesn’t want to learn”, “He is too stubborn”. But have you ever considered that it might be your own fault? Yes, most of the time it is our fault that animals do exactly the opposite of what we ask them to do because of what we are saying to them.
During almost every session that I have with a client, I change what people are saying to their animal companions. Any negativity, or any negation in a sentence, will make your animal companion do exactly that what you don’t want them to do.
For example, if I ask you not to think of a red car, a red convertible with black interior, what are you thinking about? Yes, exactly, a red convertible with black interior, but I asked you not to think about it. Or if I ask you not to think of the colour yellow, you probably will not think of blue but you will be thinking of the colour yellow.
The same goes when we talk with and to our animal companions as well.
Let’s say you have a dog companion, let’s call him Buddy, and you say: “Buddy don’t jump up”. Guess what Buddy is going to do exactly that, he will jump up.
The reason is because you are focusing on him jumping up, and that is exactly what Buddy ‘hears’ you saying: “jump up” and of course he will do it.
So rather then saying what you do not want, say what you do want him to do: “Buddy, please keep all four feet on the ground”, “Buddy, please be quiet”, “Buddy just relax”, and the list goes on and on. You always have to say what you want.
Once you start doing this, things might not change instantly, first because many times you will still say what you do not want and second, there is a momentum going on. Buddy might have done something for so long that it now has become a habit. If, however, you stay on top of it, things will change.
You also have to be aware that animals always do something for a reason, so sometimes even with the best communication skills, if things are not working to well, check in with your animal companion and ask them why they do what they do. It could be a health issue, it could be that your animal companion needs something, or your animal companion is trying to tell you something very important.
Animals never do anything to annoy us just for the fun of it or out of spite.
In all of the years and the thousands of animals I have communicated with, there has always been a good reason why an animal did what he or she did.
With understanding, support, and us taking responsibility, any behaviour can be changed.
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